Choose To Be Happy

Why is it that we continually beat ourselves up? I have a few clients who, instead of always looking at the positive things that they’ve achieved,  focus only on the negative. For example, instead of being proud of themselves for showing up at the gym, even if it’s occasionally, trying to make an effort with their eating, or skipping out on that second alcoholic beverage one evening, they concentrate more on the things that they aren’t doing as well or enough. It amazes me the amount of energy we waste on negative thinking. My clients often come to me with negative comments such as, “Why is my bum so fat? Why am I not fitter? Why am I not more motivated?” I try to explain to them that, if you think only of these negative things, you are never going to find the motivation to make the changes that you want or the ability to just accept how you are and be happy. Relating it to sport, some times I find myself wondering why my golfing is so good one day and terrible the next. I’ve realized that I cannot over think things when I play golf or I won’t be successful. My best golfing days are when I simply trust myself and relax. The other day, I discovered that I can achieve this by practicing positive thinking. Saturday afternoon was a beautiful Fall day and I headed to the golf course after a morning of work. At every hole, I stood with my caddy and said, “This is going to be a great swing.” Turns out, it was...

Things

Things. Not material things, emotional things. We all have our things. Our baggage we carry. There are different degrees. Some people suffer severe trauma, childhood abuse, neglect. Some people just have a hard time dealing with the day to day routine. Whatever it is, it has an impact and makes us who we are today. At a certain point you have to look at yourself in the mirror and say to yourself ‘You know what, I have my baggage and I can’t ignore it any more. If its making me unhappy, effecting me and the people around me, the people who love me and care about me, then its time to change.’ I don’t mean that you have to rush off to a therapist, though for some that’s extremely helpful. What I’m saying is if something makes you unhappy then you have to change it. It’s just that simple. And I know many of you are going to say its not that simple but it is. It is that simple. At some point you have to take that first step, and it needs to be now. You can’t keep blaming the past and making excuses. You can’t keep putting it off because you think that you will have time later to deal with it. Time goes by fast and before you know it you’ll be in the middle of your life looking back at all the time you wasted and all the opportunities you missed because you were too wrapped up in all your ‘things.’ Of course it’s important to make sure the steps you’re taking are healthy ones....

July 4th 2013

This has been an interesting week for me. It’s not often that I can report to you that I was hit by a car while riding my bike. Thankfully, aside from a few stitches and bruises, I survived and I am here to tell you about my experience. I was riding with a client in Southampton, we came to an intersection with a four way stop and I saw that there was a car a substantial distance away. So as I normally do, I slowly went through the stop and told my client that they could come too. Within seconds, I saw the car was still heading towards me. My immediate reaction was to veer to the side. The car swiped my side as I tried to move out of the way. It happened to be raining at the time so my bike slipped out of the way more than it probably would have had the roads been dry. Being locked into my bike kept me from getting thrown very far and I just slid along the road with the bicycle. Immediately after the accident, I was taken to the Southampton hospital where I received excellent care. They gave me something for the pain and cleaned me up right away. I left the hospital with a few bandages and decided I would go teach swimming. I didn’t actually go swimming, but standing on the side, coaching my client helped relieve the shock a bit and I was able to pull myself together enough to play golf later that afternoon. I have been trying to stay positive about the accident,...

My Wonderful New Publicist

I’ve never been big on the idea of using a publicist to grow my business. I have tried in the past, but after spending some money on it without seeing much in return, I decided that it wasn’t something that worked for my goals at the time. However, recently I’ve realized that to take Brownings Fitness to the next level I need to stop training so many clients and start working on the business instead of in the business. I am beginning to understand that in order to do this I will need some help. In the past, a couple of companies have approached me, but the thought of spending $100,000 up front to become the next “it”, is just not something within my budget. A month or so back a new client came into the gym who happened to be in the PR business. At the seemingly perfect time, fate brought this person into my life who has been supportive of me in my hopes to grow the business. I started talking to the client and we decided to barter services so that he would train at my gym in order to achieve his goals and, in return, he would help me with promotional work for the business. True to his word, within two weeks he came to me with an organized segment on Fox TV. He asked me for a list of things that I could possibly talk about with ideas like workouts for brides to be or the perfect bikini body. It’s something I love to do so I sent back some of my ideas. He...

Self Discipline

I think there’s a very fine line between discipline and pushing ourselves, being kind to ourselves, and just making changes in order to get out of a rut. For the last couple of weeks, a few things have happened that have made me come to this realization. First of all, I’ve done a few nutritional consultations. Some of these consultations were with clients whom I have met with in the past for a nutritional consultation but came back to me for re-motivation. What became clear to me is that both the new client and the client from the past really lack discipline. They seem to somehow think that the world owes them treats every now and then or perhaps they feel there is something missing inside of them that makes them need these extra treats. It could even be that they just haven’t had enough food and are hungry for more, so they end up reaching for the unhealthy choices. It’s almost as if they’re hamsters storing up for the winter; they need that extra food, just in case. I can’t criticize them because when I train for a race and know that I will be burning more calories, I always say to myself “just in case.” Just in case what? I’m going to not finish the race? Well, so what? In their case, is it just in case they think they are going to starve? Well, they’re not going to starve. They’ve got plenty of food and, even though I am not an advocate of it, there are people who go weeks, days, and months on very little...

Self Motivation

I have talked before about self motivation, and I completely understand why people have trainers. They’d much rather go for a cup of coffee, so they need a trainer to motivate them when they get there. Otherwise they’d indulge and do what they really want to do, which is nothing, instead of what they need to do, which is get their workout in. Of course if they really didn’t want to do it they wouldn’t have shown up, but the actual doing it requires the trainer to be there to push them. I’m always impressed when I meet somebody who can truly motivate themselves, come to the gym a little earlier, do their cardio prior to working with their trainer, or even better, come in on days they are not with their trainer and do their own workouts. Self motivation is something that is hard to do, but is so important. We need to instill it into the younger generations so that they don’t always do their homework with a tutor or their work outs with a coach or only in team practice. For example if they are a tennis player they should be able to pick up their racquet all on their own, go find a wall and hit the ball against it by themselves, or go out and find a track and run by themselves. Self motivation a is a rare gift, and for me it’s always really amazing when I find somebody who can actually do it. It was so fantastic when the New York City marathon was cancelled, and still there were people in the...