Summer Is On It’s Way

It’s hard to believe when one day it is a beautiful 60 degrees, and the next day it’s back to 40 degrees and windy, rainy and grey. It makes one think are we living in Finland, Norway, England? However, even in places like England right now the sun is shining. Extensive research has shown that productivity is much better when the sun shines, no matter how cold it is. With the lack of sunshine and the inconsistent weather it is hard for people to feel motivated and to believe that summer is around the corner. The truth is, everything is controlled by the mind, and everything is contagious. What we are going to speak about today is, not about contagious as in catching a cold, we’ll talk about that in our next blog. What I want to talk about is summer. Many people wake up, not now but maybe mid-way through May, when the weather is beautiful, sunny and warm, and they think summer is on the way! They start their training. They spend all of their summer training in order to get their ideal beach body. They work hard and finally achieve their results at the end of the summer, just in time for the winter. It’s never too late. Don’t procrastinate! Get started now, so you have time to enjoy the summer and show off all your hard work. However, even more important than achieving the perfect summer body, is achieving the perfect summer attitude. No matter what happens for you this summer, you want to enjoy it. So what if your body is not perfect? What...

Smiling Is Contagious–Pass It On!

You know what they say: germs are contagious. People catch colds, they spread germs. However, the word contagious does not only apply to negative things. Smiling is also contagious, as is being happy, and being productive. Did you know that if you are happy in your work environment, when you get a cold, you actually don’t feel as sick? You are much more productive. You can get up and face your day and not be hindered by your symptoms. I’ve always wondered why when I get a cold I never feel ill, knock on wood. I’m always happy to be at work and I keep training. The same goes with smiling. If I walk into a room with a smile on my face, it’s contagious. If my clients are down or blue or don’t feel like working, if I arrive and talk about how down or bad or blue I feel, it makes them feel even worse. Or if they did feel great, I bring them down. Instead, if I arrive for our session positive and energetic, they will leave feeling the same way. Our moods are contagious. Think about how your mood affects the people around you. Not only in your work environment, but with your friends, with your children. With people you see in the street. When you smile, people smile back. When you are positive, other people are more positive around you. Isn’t that a wonderful thing that we are able to do? If we imagine that thread of happiness passing through the world, what a wonderful day it’s going to...

Relationships

Today I would like to talk about relationships. No, I’m not professing to be Dr. Phil, or Oprah. But I do know that a big part of my business goes beyond the hour a client spends with me at the gym. Every part of your life connects to your training: your ability to focus, your lifestyle, and most importantly, your relationships. Relationships affect all parts of our lives, from how we eat, to how often we exercise, to how well we sleep. For example, I have a friend in South Africa. Last year, it was wonderful to see her up every morning, exercising at home on her bike. However, I was recently back there, and she told me her relationship with her current partner was not going well. We started talking about it, and I noticed how much she was drinking. Drinking at lunchtime, drinking in the evening, drinking all the time; one of the things she had stopped doing the previous year. Then, when her partner came over, and we were all laying by the pool, I noticed immediately that he was the one who initiated the drinking. They would start to drink, and continue all afternoon. As we all know, drinking can create changes in personality, so by the evening, she was texting me that they were having an argument. A few days later, she invited me to go for a coffee. Of course, her intention wasn’t to have coffee, she wanted a drink. So off we go, it was two o’clock in the afternoon. We are sitting there, she is drinking her white wine. I decided...

Birthdays

There are two kinds of people in the world: those who want their birthdays to disappear, and there are people like my sisters and I, who want our birthdays to be a big deal. I spent so many years with my ex-husband wanting my birthday to be important. Inevitably, on that day I was always let down. I realize now this was unfair pressure to put on another person. If our expectations are too high, no matter what happens, they will feel like they weren’t good enough. Eventually, after many disappointments, I adopted a new attitude. I was not going to make my birthday a big deal and, surprise surprise, I had fabulous birthdays year after year. Somehow over the last decade I managed to slip back into my old ways. This year, my birthday came along and, maybe because it is the start of my next decade and a new stage in my life, but my expectations were high. The disappointments started immediately. My two dearest friends both weren’t around on my day. I must say, I felt upset and I couldn’t let that emotion go. After that, the bizarre circumstances continued: a friend couldn’t come because of a tragedy (how could I possibly be upset about that?), there was a huge snowstorm, there was traffic, I had to work late. Needless to say, I felt disappointed and let down. A few days later, I was going to meet one of my close friends for lunch. When I arrived, to my great surprise, all my other friends who had missed my birthday dinner were there too. At the...

Win-Win

Win-win. It’s something we all strive for. But, how do we make life a win-win for everybody, in every situation? Is it even possible? We are all familiar with those ideal circumstances, where the situation benefits everybody. Take for example one of my clients. She wrote me something fabulous this weekend. She said, “My husband and I went away, we stayed at the Four Seasons, and the baby was with Grandma. Everyone was happy and it was a win-win for all.” Unfortunately, not all situations are like that. Take something simple, like a race. You run a race, one person wins. Even if you come in second, someone beats you. But is it possible to look at that situation in a more positive light? Maybe you didn’t win, but you entered the race, that was your first achievement. Had you not entered at all, then maybe you could consider yourself a failure. But you entered the race, that is the first important step. So, you entered the race, you tried your best, but you didn’t win first prize. Well, so what? Now you have the motivation to push yourself to perform even better next time. It will inspire you to go out and work even harder. I always say, having the ability to change the way you look at a situation, to change things around, so that you can see the positive even in a seemingly negative situation, is a very important trait. Sometimes I see that those who are natural athletes, who win all the time, often don’t make the best long-term competitors. And they certainly don’t make...